“Does true altruism / unconditional love exist?” Some scientists argue that they don’t exist because people expect rewards from their acts of kindness. …If that’s the case, then everyone who has sacrificed their time, energy, and lives practiced love out of selfishness rather than for the sake of others’ well-being? Love is not imaginary, and so is egocentrism. /// I agree with those scientists about how people are inherently self-centered. In this self(ie)-centered culture, we need to remind ourselves that other people’s happiness are more important than our own… and act with compassion. /// There are people throughout history and in our lives today that give unconditional love. Denying that is just downright disrespectful and is perpetuating egocentrism. 😧
Let’s compare the pros and cons of being the main chick and side chick…
- She’s official. (That’s signified with a title and/or ring.)
- She has benefits.
- Her man most likely knows her more than the side chick.
- She has to deal with her man’s problems.
- She gets an emotional toll when she finds out her man secretly hangs out with side chicks.
- She hardly knows her man’s problems and can’t help him.
- She’s more likley to take the position of side chick.
- Her man can easily cut ties with her if he can run to a “safety net”.
- She’s her man’s entertainment and “safety net”.
- She shares the same (if not more) benefits than the main chicks.
- Her man most likely treats her better than the main chick.
- She doesn’t have to deal with her man’s problems.
- She gets an emotional toll when she finds out that her man secretly has a main chick.
- She hardly knows her man’s problems and can’t help him.
- She’s less likely to take the position of main chick.
- Her man can easily cut ties with her because they had no official relationship.
So who won?
A lovely poem about mothers.
When your mother has already aged,
When her eyes love and hope
no longer see life as it once did,
When her feet, and tired,
Can no longer hold her while walking
So give her your arm in support,
Join her with joy,
The time will come when, weeping,
should accompany her on her last legs.
And if you question something,
then give a response.
And if you ask again, talk to her!
And if you question yet again, respond,
Not eagerly, but with gentle calm.
And if she can not understand you clearly,
explain everything with gentle joy.
Will come when the bitter hour
that her lips will not ask anything more.
-Adolf Hitler, 1923
Yes, you read that right. She’s Jewish.
Hitler’s first and unrequited love is Stefanie Rabatsch – a Jewish girl who grew up in a family of high social status.
He was 16 when he first saw her and her mother stroll in Linz, Austria.
Since then, he fell so madly in love with her to the point where he wrote love poems and wanted to commit suicide.
Hitler never talked to her, and Rabatsch eventually married an army officer. She remained oblivious of Hitler’s feelings for her until she was interviewed about it after the war ended.
“Mulan” taught me a lot of things.
1. Not everyone can or will want to see the real you.
2. Beauty is skin-deep.
3. Love comes in many forms, in unexpected times, and from unexpected places.
4. There’s a price for freedom.
5. Don’t belittle your small accomplishments. Be grateful for them because they’re still accomplishments.
6. Plan ahead and improvise when all else fails.
7. No matter how much you’re dying on the inside, life goes on and you have to keep on living.
8. True friends are your guardians.
9. Be someone worth fighting for.
10. Make friends who will make you stronger.
11. The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of them all.
12. You don’t always get what you deserve and ask for. So, just make-do with whatever you have.
13. Sometimes, you have to give up something to get something.
14. Learn to change.
15. Don’t worry about what others believe in.
16. Don’t be afraid to take chances, even if they seem like they’re slim-to-none.
17. Things that seem bad are not necessarily bad. Same thing goes for the good things in life.
18. Be true to yourself and to the world.
19. There’s nothing wrong with being different. Besides, that’s what makes you special and unique.
20. No matter how the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it.
21. The greatest rewards in life are intangible.
22. It’s okay to lie for the right reasons.
23. The truth will make itself known eventually.
24. No matter how ugly the truth is, accept it.
25. The dead are remembered for a while, and then forgotten.
It’s a word that describes an emotion we subconsciously feel more towards ourselves than towards others.
I’m amazed by how families, couples, and friends exist in this selfish world. Love for another human being is rare because it is usually lost in the process of becoming mature and independent.
Yes, we’ve heard about love in fairy tales: Once upon a time, two people have a budding love for each other. Then somehow, in a matter of few pages, their love blossoms.
And yes, we know how exhausting love is: It requires a “giver” and “receiver” to love themselves; to love each other as much as (if not more than) themselves; to “fight” each other in an endless battle of “equivalent exchange”, even though equivalency is never reached; and to exchange roles.
But does true love exist in this world? Or is it merely a fantasy?
When we were the most honest, vulnerable, and helpless beings, we projected love towards our caretakers and feared of the lonely life. And sadly, we have no recollection of that time of our life.
Now, love is but a lost memory. As soon as we became conscious of ourselves, we re-wired our mature minds to be greedy for attention, and lazy for assuming the role of “giver”.
The most effective cure I can think of to this heart disease is death. And sadly, it’s not effective for everyone.