My “Something” (Pt. II) – The Second Meeting

In August ’19, he moved to Baltimore, Maryland from Seoul, Korea in the hopes of becoming a pro lacrosse player. We only saw each other for about a month, and we just parted ways recently.

I have nothing but good memories for my first dating experience. Although our time together was brief, there were some moments when it felt like an eternity because I tried my best to live in and cherish those moments. It doesn’t really hurt to have lingering thoughts about him.

One week later, and we see each other again at the same conversation event. At the end of the event, he waited for me by the exit door. I was like, “Oh? You wanna… eat with me again?”

We walked to the Commons building together. (I forgot to mention this next detail in my last post, so I’ll mention it here.) Just like the first time we met, he proceeded to walk not one, not two, but maybe ten steps ahead of me just to open doors. Wow, what a gentleman.

Again, we had late lunch together. He bought sushi on-campus. I told him I like sushi too, and he shared some of his sushi with me.

Our conversations became a lot more interesting during this second meeting. One of the first things he asked me was “How old do you think I am?” What a weird question, I thought to myself. …Maybe he’s asking me because he’s older than what he appears to be. …And maybe he already graduated from college. “… 22” “No. …27.” …What? I’m 22, and I look so much younger. He’s 27, and he looks… so much younger, too. Ahahaha.

The next thing we talked about is what we wanted to do in the future. For him, he wants to become a pro lacrosse player.

People either know lacrosse, or they don’t. So for those who don’t really know the sport, it’s a Native American sport that’s older than America itself, and it’s gaining popularity.

I kinda had the feeling that he’d say something like that because of his Facebook profile picture and his abnormally. ripped. body. Since his Facebook profile picture shows him wearing the #1 jersey, I assumed that he was one of the team captains of a lacrosse team. But as soon as he said that he wants to become a pro lacrosse player, I immediately became shocked because that means that he didn’t just play for any team – he plays for Korea’s national lacrosse team. Moreover, he didn’t just pick a random state to move to – he moved to Maryland, home to some of the top lacrosse teams in the nation, as well as the US Lacrosse HQ.

I was a little bit familiar with the sport before meeting the guy I dated because I had high school classmates who played lacrosse, my high school was near Johns Hopkins (they’re known to have really good lacrosse players like Paul Rabil), and I read some things about the sport in encyclopedias when I was a kid. I’m not exactly sure how popular lacrosse will become in the future, but I heard that lacrosse might become an Olympic sport again. For now though, I do know that lacrosse is pretty popular in the US, but not so much outside the US yet. (Who knew that Korea was producing lacrosse players like him?)

Another thing we talked about was the movie “La La Land”. I never heard of that movie until he recommended it to me. He showed me a clip of the two main characters singing and dancing to “A Lovely Night”. (Eventually, I watch the movie at the end of the semester. I’ll talk about it in another post!)

That’s all I remember from our second meeting. Of course, the most memorable thing was the fact that he’s aiming to go pro. It was pretty evident that he liked me, but I wasn’t too sure about whether he was worth dating. Yes, he was pretty attractive. But some deal-breakers that I haven’t quite identified from him were personality and compatibility. I thought to myself, “I’ll try to come up with my decision next time we see each other again.” And to my surprise, it actually wasn’t too difficult to make my decision.

My “Something” (Pt. I) – The First Meeting

In August ’19, he moved to Baltimore, Maryland from Seoul, Korea in the hopes of becoming a pro lacrosse player. We only saw each other for about a month, and we just parted ways two days ago.

I have nothing but good memories for my first dating experience. Although our time together was brief, there were some moments when it felt like an eternity because I tried my best to live in and cherish those moments. It doesn’t really hurt to have lingering thoughts about him.

He saw me reading magazines in an office at my college. Then, the following day, we were at a conversation event for foreign exchange students. I was one of the few native English speakers and local students there. We were divided into two groups, and by chance I ended up sitting next to him. He asked me for my Facebook, and without thinking twice I stupidly accepted his friend request (him, a total stranger then). He also asked me if I was free after the event, and I was like “Yah”.
As we walked down a flight of stairs together, he complimented me on my outfit and how he remembered me from the office.  He said something like “When I saw you again today, I knew you were the same girl I saw in the office because you dress so nice and colorful.” I kinda felt embarrassed, and tried to return a compliment to him. “You too.” But ugh… I failed miserably because he wasn’t wearing colorful clothes. (Heheh.)

We had late lunch together. I could tell that he was a little bit shy and nervous. Something’s up.

One of the first things he asked me was “What’s my ethnicity?”, to which I replied with “… Hawaiian?” I guess that was our first time laughing together. He’s unusually tan… for a Korean. On top of that, his English is pretty good. “Can you guess what ethnicity I am?”, I asked. “Chinese?” “Close. I’m Filipino-Chinese.” Just like him, it’s hard for people to tell my ethnicity.
Deep down, we also had insecurities about our appearances. He was teased for looking ugly because he doesn’t meet the Korean male beauty standards. Me, on the other hand, was teased for not looking Filipino when I identify as a Filipino.

(For these next couple of things, I don’t remember which order they occurred in. All I remember is that they happened during our first meeting.)

He showed me what his favorite type of music is. The YouTube video he showed me was a Korean R&B MV with a ballerina in it. (I already had a hunch that he had a crush on me because he asked me for my Facebook and then proceeded to hang out with me as soon as possible. But watching the ballerina MV confirmed what I suspected.) When he asked me what kind of music I liked, I pulled up a Korean MV – “Eung Freestyle”. I didn’t think through my choice. He was shocked to hear the cursing and heavy rapping. I laughed at his reaction. To save my image (LOL), I told him “My #1 all-time favorite singer is Michael Jackson.” “Ah. What’s your favorite song by him?” “Thriller!”

“Why do you like Thriller?”, he asked. “Because I love horror. The voice in the middle of the song, Vincent Price, is my favorite part of the song. He’s a famous actor for horror movies.”

“What’s your favorite movie?”, he asked. “I think it’s House of Wax… because of Vincent Price’s voice and acting performance.” “How did you learn about that movie?” “I looked up Vincent Price because I heard his voice in Thriller.”

I looked at his book bag. It was a greenish/beige military-styled book bag with a lapel pin of the Korean flag. I asked him “You like guns?” Puzzled by the question, he went with a safe answer: “… I was… in the army…” And then I added, “I like hunting.” “… Hunting?” “Yeah. I was certified at age 13.” “… What’s your favorite gun?” “Muzzleloader.” “… One shot, one kill?” “YEAH~.”

After learning so much about me, he commented: “You dress so lady-like, but you’re so… tough.” And I was like… “Yah!”

Just as we were about to leave, he noticed that it was raining outside. “Ah~, rain…” I said. “…I like rain.” The afternoon was quiet enough for me to hear the rain tap the windows and my heart softly thump. Since I couldn’t really process my feelings toward him, I thought a second meetup would help me decide if he’s worth my time.

Re: On the firing of a “tenured UC professor”

The University of California Board of Regents dismissed a professor from the Riverside campus named Rob Latham after his student issued a formal complaint alleging him of sexually harassing that student with the comment “ride you hard,” and distributing drugs to other students.

If a heterosexual man had made the exact same statement, no lewd implication would ever have been inferred.

-Rob Latham

The University of California Board of Regents dismissed a gay professor from the Riverside campus named Rob Latham.

One of his students issued a formal complaint alleging him of sexually harassing that student with the comment “ride you hard,” as well as distributing drugs to other students.

The Hearing Committee dismissed the original charges of “flagrant, serial sexual harassment,” and instead charged him for his recurring “psychological illness.”

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“Things I Learned In College” (#1): How To Use My Smartphone

I can’t stop thinking about the funny and hard things I learned at my previous college.

Sometimes, I wish I learned these things earlier.

*Sigh* Well, at least it’s a good thing that I learned them.


#1 How to use a smartphone

No joke. I got a smartphone as my high school graduation present.

At first, the smartphone felt huuuge in my small hands compared to my first cellphone.

New phone (Samsung) vs. old phone (Nokia)

It took me forever (the entire freshman year of college) to learn how to use a smartphone. (And I’m still learning how to use it as I continue to update it.)

I feel bad for all my family and friends who had to put-up with me trying to use my phone. My family would have a tough-time communicating with me because of long-distance calls, while my friends and I were really into texting each other.

It’s frustrating. Smartphones have so many features, and it’s difficult to manage all of them.


Here are some of the things I learned (because I feel like listing them, and looking back at this post with giggles):

1.) There are different volume settings for ringtone, media, notifications, system, and calling.

2.) Make sure you completely mute your phone whenever you need to. (Make sure you manually adjust all the volume bars for the ringtone, media, and calling modes.)


3.) If you call someone with a low calling volume, and you tell them that you can’t hear them when they can hear you on their end, then they’ll think you’re crazy (and most likely try calling you again to get the same results).

4.) If you call someone and they sound muffled even though your calling volume is fine, then either you, the person you’re calling, or both of you are not in a calling-friendly setting.


5.) It’s hard to use the touchscreen when you’re in calling-mode because the touchscreen automatically turns-off and blacks-out in that mode.

6.) You need to download an emoji keyboard from the app store because your default keyboard doesn’t always have the emoji option in all the messaging apps.

7.) You don’t have to use the default wallpaper and screensaver options.

8.) Don’t use live wallpapers and screensavers even though they’re so cool and your old cellphone never had those options.


9.) A “butt-dial” means that you accidentally made a phone call, regardless of whether or not your butt was the cause of it.

10.) You can lock your phone so that you don’t accidentally touch any applications (and accidentally “butt-dial” people).


11.) Use your (then-new) Facebook account to keep yourself updated with college events and news.

12.) Facebook Messenger (supposedly) has a clearer-sounding calling feature than my default phone app.


13.) Don’t keep any apps running in the background because they use up your 4G, and consequentially slow down the loading-time for your apps.

14.) Just turn-off your phone whenever you travel. I always remember to turn-on “Airplane Mode”, but I usually forget to turn it off.


15.) You can delay message sending.

16.) Don’t delay message sending anymore. This feature causes a lot of problems, including failed message sending. (My messages don’t always send at the predicted time. They either don’t send at all, or get sent much, much later.)

use delay message sending in messaging app in Galaxy S5.jpg

And last, but not least…

17.) It’s okay. You were trying to get accustomed to new technology. Some of the problems you had were either due to the manufacturer, the not-so-calling-friendly environment, or just your clumsiness. Just thank God that this isn’t your phone:

A burned Samsung Galaxy S6. Samsung is known for their burning smartphones (especially the infamous Note 7).

Essential Checklist For Finding A Potential Home


Check where these things are relevant to the home you’re looking at:

  • stores
  • malls
  • groceries and markets
  • postal offices
  • banks
  • pharmacies
  • street lights
  • fire departments
  • police stations
  • hospitals
  • gas stations
  • workplace

Other things that aren’t really necessary to look for:

  • utility services
  • places of worship (unless you’re religious)
  • parks
  • pools
  • airports
  • prisons
  • clubs
  • daycares (unless you have children and can’t find a babysitter)
  • libraries (unless you’re a student)
  • schools (unless you’re a student)




If you have a car:

  • How much is parking?
  • Where can I park?

If you want to take the train:

  • How much are train tickets?
  • Where can the trains take me?

If you want to take the bus:

  • How much are bus rides?
  • Where can the buses take me?

If you want to walk:

  • Do the streets look safe enough to walk there during the day, in the afternoon, and at night?

If you want to invite guests over:

  • Where can my guests park their cars?
  • What modes of transportations can they take to get to your place?




Does the unit have a security alarm?




For the front door:

  • Does the front door have a peep hole?
  • Does the front door have a sliding lock in addition to a lock on the doorknob?
  • Is there a spare key readily available at the office?
  • What is the fee for replacing my key?

For fires and gases:

  • Are there alarms? (Carbon monoxide, gas, and smoke?)
  • Are there fire sprinklers?
  • Are there any fire extinguishers?
  • Where are the fire extinguishers located?
  • Where are the fire exits?



Rooms In General

  • Are there any cracks and holes?
  • Can windows be opened?
  • Is there a patio or balcony?
  • Is there a sliding door?
  • Am I allowed to decorate my unit? (With wallpaper and paint?)




  • Does it come with a microwave, refrigerator, stove and oven, and dish washer?
  • What kind of stove does the unit have? (Gas or electric?)
  • Are the appliances updated?




Where can I pick up the mail?




  • Where is the laundry room located?
  • What is the average cost of laundry? (Washer and dryer?)




For the outdoor temperature:

  • What is the climate like?
  • What seasons are there in that area?

For the indoor temperature:

  • Is there central AC/heating?
  • Can the AC/heating be controlled?




  • How do I request utility services?
  • Is there a 24-hour call for utility services?
  • What is the average cost for utilities? (Internet, cable, electricity, water, and gas?)





Who’s responsible for pest-control? (The landlord or the tenant?)




  • Are there any unit inspections?
  • How often are inspections made?
  • How much in advance do I get a notice about inspections?




  • What are the payment options?
  • How much is the security deposit?
  • How much is the screening fee?
  • When are the payments due?
  • What is the late fee?
  • How much do damages cost?




  • How many roommates maximum can the unit hold?
  • Is there a deadline for move-ins or is it open year-round?
  • If I don’t have a roommate in mind, can the office assign me to a random roommate or a roommate of my choice?




  • What are the guest policies?
  • Are quiet hours enforced?

The Secret to Efficient Programming Is Incremental Programming on Paper

Jotting down all my coding ideas on paper before typing them on the computer has helped me become a more efficient programmer.

As a freshman college student who had no prior programming experience before college, learning a programming language was a tough challenge for me.

As a noob placed in a computer science class mixed with experienced and non-experienced programmers, I mimicked my class’ overall programming style: typing code, checking errors through compiling the program, and revising the code until the program works.

Essentially, I was mindlessly programming.


That method of programming led me to confusion and frustration. Not only was I heavily dependent on the compiler to identify errors, but I could neither trace my own code nor understand code written by other programmers. Looking at long lines of multicolored code on computer screens became a sore to my eyes. Countless hours were spent debugging and, unintentionally, creating new bugs.

Looking at long lines of multicolored code on computer screens became a sore to my eyes. Countless hours were spent debugging and, unintentionally, creating new bugs. Old concepts were occasionally forgotten, and new concepts became increasingly difficult to understand.


I would attend lectures in hopes of grasping a better understanding of what I learned from the readings and getting hints on how to tackle the upcoming programming assignments. The professor not only summarized the assigned readings, but he ignored questions and comments that “can be answered by the textbook.”

Because our class’ textbook (zyBooks) is designed for students to complete interactive activities while compiling their programs within the textbook, I relied on the textbook’s built-in compiler just like how I relied on the compiler in my Cloud 9 workspace.

When I finally flunked the exam, I was handicapped at a grade lower than my overall class grade and my seat for the succeeding computer science course was dropped.

On the brightside, I was able to reflect on how I have been studying for computer science during the break that followed exam week. As soon as I realized that the A’s that I have been receiving on programming assignments were not reflective of how efficiently I can write code, I began to wonder to myself: “How can I train myself to become a human compiler?”


Since the exams for computer science were taken on paper and without the help of a compiler, I decided to revisit all of the previous chapters I read and recomplete all of my programming assignments on paper. Also, as I was doing those things, I made it a goal for myself to create successful programs within at most ten tries.


By the time the new quarter began, I was able to train my brain to predict the result of my programs. Determining the type of errors produced by my programs and writing the simplest codes to solve complex problems became a breeze to me.


(Midterm exam results, fall quarter 2015): Because I was a student who was first placed into a computer class full of experienced programmers, it was no surprise to anyone that the majority of the class received an A on the midterm exam. Somehow, I managed to get a C on that exam.


(Midterm exam results, winter quarter 2016): Now that I am retaking the same computer science class but with more inexperienced programmers, it is obvious to see how difficult programming is for starters by the grades students received on their midterm exam. I am happy to say that I received an A on that exam.


I saved all of my written programming notes in a binder so that I can see my thought process as I was trying to meet the program specifications, review mistakes I need to avoid, and write comments for each line of code.

Along with those written notes are all the programs I saved in my Cloud 9 workspace. For every program that I created on paper first, I would type them out in Cloud 9, compile them, add comments to lines that had errors that I failed to see, and duplicate a copy of those programs so that I can compare my revisions to the original code.

As my winter quarter is coming to a close, I hope I can prepare myself for the final exam. I remember that the final exam is a lot more challenging than the midterm exam, since it requires students to actually write code instead of selecting an answer from multiple choices.